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A Written Reflection

September 30, 2011 3 comments

As a strong “ideator” who uses “connectedness” in all things and is an extreme extrovert, so much of how I process my thinking and move it forward happens in conversations with people.   It has been a very effective method for incubating, creating, and drawing important connections and meaning – all through the privilege of getting to know people better, engaging with them and further developing these relationships.

Like so many other great things in our lives, I’ve found a down-side to these activities.  As the type of person who likes to chase “the shiny new thing” I often find myself fragmented and frenzied.   My head starts swirling in thoughts and I’m physically jazzed-up from the interaction; often waking up with thoughts in the middle of the night.  I found myself just disappearing from these activities by escaping into my work and not moving any ideas forward as a way to refresh from the hype.  I was stuck in this cycle of rapid frenzied movement followed by stagnation and it felt unhealthy, unbalanced, and even ineffective.

I lacked balance.  Focus was missing  Solitary reflection should replace the stagnation in order to quiet the mind, process and understand, draw meaning, and be able to keep moving forward.

I was privileged to participate in a writing / journaling conference hosted by The People House and The Center for Journal Therapy recently.  I learned that journaling and solitary reflection would accomplish both things:  quiet the mind AND continue to move ideas and thinking forward.  I’ve been diligently applying these techniques and feel more balanced, have more insight, and am moving ideas and thinking forward more rapidly and with a calm that I haven’t had before.

The tagline for the conference was:  I write to know what my heart thinks.  It is so true!  I’m great at asking questions, but have lacked the discipline to pursue finding answers, including listening for those answers.  If you have never written as a technique to move your ideas forward, try it!

Reflective Writing Steps:

  1. Set aside 10-15 uninterrupted and quiet minutes to allow the free-flow of your thoughts.
  2. Pick a question (of yourself, of someone or something else, of God, or whomever).  See following examples.
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5 Steps to Make Your Vision for a Balanced Life Possible

August 9, 2011 4 comments

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So many of us struggle with how to have focus in our life and how to find better balance with work and family, and other things we care about.  Following are some steps that I find works best:

Step 1: Define Your Vision

Know what you want in life (&/or what you are called to do) as a mother / wife / family member, as a professional, and as a person (we are more than just our roles of Mom, Wife, and Professional!). Listen to your heart, identify what you get excited and passionate about, talk with people who care about and know you well.  You may find that taking some assessments, doing reflection activities, or even working with a coach can help you find clarity in this step.  The key is to be confident in what you define, write it down, and keep it somewhere where you can review it often. So many people fail in this step and find themselves blown around by other forces instead of creating their own life force by defining what is important, what you want, and creating a vision of what that looks like.

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