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Start Your Career Transition: Step 3 – Word Research

October 17, 2011 1 comment

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In this step, you get to do job REsearch, without job searching.  Job research for the sake of finding words and work activities that sound interesting to you.  This step will help you focus future job search (or job creation) activities on the type of work that most interests you, leverages how you are uniquely wired, and provides engaging challenges.

Online Job Research

  1. Go online, at least two or three times, and look at job postings that look interesting.
  2. IGNORE job qualifications at this stage (remember, this activity is NOT an actual job search).
  3. Capture critical information along the way:
  • search terms that produce interesting job results,
  • job titles that seem exciting and just sound “cool” to you, and
  • job responsibilities that you find within job descriptions that seem exceptionally interesting.

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Start Your Career Transition: Step 2 – Engage Others

October 10, 2011 2 comments

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Step 2 – Engage Others

Now that you have a clear picture of yourself (see Step 1 post), take some time to engage others who know you, such as:  friends, family, co-workers, peers, clients, professional colleagues, fellow volunteers, etc.  Think of ~15-25 people who you can invite to participate in your journey – more is better.  Tell them you are seeking some feedback from people who know you or who you’ve worked with as you do some career and life planning.  Ask for 15 minutes of their time (or take the opportunity for a longer coffee meet-up or lunch, or …).

Questions

  1. How would you describe me and my work?  As if you were recommending me for a job or someone asked you as a reference.  Please be honest with things you think are good or might seem bad.
  2. How does it FEEL to work with me?  They may struggle with this one a little, but allow them time to think and process.  You may need to offer one word that another person used in response to this question to help get them started.

What You Are Doing During the Conversation

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Start Your Career Transition, Step 1- First Know Thyself

October 3, 2011 2 comments

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I was privileged again recently to speak with someone interested in making a career transition.  She wanted to make sure she didn’t just transition without being thoughtful in how she proceeded.  Frustration and longing for something different can actually get in the way of thinking about how to tactically move forward.  This series offers several steps to help you get moving forward in a purposeful way.

Step 1 – First Know Thyself

Use several different sources to get a crisp picture of who you are – to take a long, slow, inquisitive look into a looking-glass to discover and learn about how you are uniquely designed:

  • What you are great at doing
  • What you love to do
  • What you are passionate about / what gets you jazzed-up and excited
  • What you want in life
  • In what way / environment you do your best work
  • How you communicate and relate with others
  • What is most important to you

Do some assessments and use other resources to better understand yourself.  If you have access to these types of tools at work, say YES!  If not, there are some great reasonably priced resources (several provided below).  Read more…

A Moment of Clarity – The Power of Self-Knowledge

September 28, 2011 Leave a comment

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Have you ever had the gift of witnessing one of those “ah ha!” moments when a child / teen / youth / young person / youngun’ realizes something about themselves?  The kind of clarity that maybe you wish you found earlier in your life?  The sort of self-knowledge that can have a huge impact on how you work and interact with others in all kinds of useful circumstance?

I witnessed this with my daughter when I shared some “style” information.  She was able to say “that’s exactly what I do!”  The best part of this experience, however, was to see her put this knowledge to use.  To recognize when she was using her back-up style (aka verbal attack, but we call it “going to the dark side”) and stop it in its tracks.  She redirected her energy and melt-down was avoided. 

Momma, so proud!

The first step is awareness, and then you have the foundation to do something, to put this knowledge to good use.

I challenge you to:

  1. know more about your nature tendencies or style,
  2. define how it affects interactions with the people in your live and your work, and
  3. pick the element that seems to get in the way the most and choose one simple method to get around it in the future.  You might find the following STOP Interview (from Marcus Buckingham) to be a helpful way to think through this step:
    • Can you just Stop doing that behavior?
    • Can you Team up with someone, Transfer the activity to someone else, or Transition to something different?
    • Can you Offer up one of your strengths as an alternative way to deal with the current situation?
    • Can you simply Perceive this behavior from the perspective of your strengths?

Know, and be Free!

5 Steps to Make Your Vision for a Balanced Life Possible

August 9, 2011 4 comments

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So many of us struggle with how to have focus in our life and how to find better balance with work and family, and other things we care about.  Following are some steps that I find works best:

Step 1: Define Your Vision

Know what you want in life (&/or what you are called to do) as a mother / wife / family member, as a professional, and as a person (we are more than just our roles of Mom, Wife, and Professional!). Listen to your heart, identify what you get excited and passionate about, talk with people who care about and know you well.  You may find that taking some assessments, doing reflection activities, or even working with a coach can help you find clarity in this step.  The key is to be confident in what you define, write it down, and keep it somewhere where you can review it often. So many people fail in this step and find themselves blown around by other forces instead of creating their own life force by defining what is important, what you want, and creating a vision of what that looks like.

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The Mirror – Help Me See What I’m Not Seeing

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I have a friend who is already extremely accomplished and someone I admire greatly.  We are both busy and just can’t get together often enough.  When we do,  it’s an intense flurry of conversation between both of our lives.  I heard recently that the year of zero (2010) is the year of new beginnings and that is a great way to look at this year for both of us.

“she used the word “draining” to describe it”

In our latest conversation, she was drawing on my little notepad and describing her latest work.  Her first box represented the current work she’s doing that is very easy and lucrative.  The second box represented something she’s been approached to do.  In describing box #2, her body hunched, she used the word “draining” to describe it, and indicated that it wouldn’t really do anything for her. THEN, she drew the third box, representing her next idea of what she wants to do.  It was an “AHA” for her to move in this direction.  Her body straightened up, she looked up, her eyes were bright, and there was a distinct change in her voice and word choice to describe the work.

“her body straightened up [and] her eyes were bright”

This third body of work would harness her background expertise, become a source of income, and feed her soul, too.  She recognized that this work would harness her strong N and J (MBTI).  She already knew this part.  The fact that she is picking a direction and will do the work to get there is a reflection of her strong J.  When I pointed out the polar differences between how she described box #2 & #3, it was shocking for her and provided immediate insight into pursuing #3 and whether or not to go forward with #2 at all.

Even when we are already self-aware-savvy, having a friend or colleague who is also aware can help point out things that you didn’t see yourself – acting like a mirror.  As much as we may want to achieve knowing ourselves clearly (in black & white), we are complex beings and ever evolving.  It’s a beautiful reflection of the life-long journey we are on.  What you do with this information makes all the difference.  Will you take action?  Will you turn the dial (even just a little bit) in a different direction?

Why would you not?

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